Derek and I have always dreamed of having a family together. We never cared how, but, we always knew that we would adopt. I should say that I actually told him from day 1 that he needed to be okay with adopting because it is a wonderful thing and I was going to adopt a child one day. I would not have the amazing sister I have if it weren't for adoption.
Derek and I had talked about what direction we should go with adoption: domestic, international, or foster to adopt. For multiple reasons we chose foster to adopt. One of the obvious reasons was money. To adopt domestically or internationally you need to be able to come up with a minimum of $35,000 and upwards of $50,000. Not wanting to break our bank we chose foster to adopt because everything I have read is that it is virtually "free".
"Free" always comes with a hidden cost though, especially when you are talking about foster care.
"Free" comes at the cost of a child being frustrated and confused with why they are being removed from their home and put into an unfamiliar home with unfamiliar things and people. "Free" comes with trying to help kids overcome. Overcome anything from emotional trauma, physical abuse, sexual abuse, or the most common neglect. "Free" comes with appointments, visits, and trying to rebuild a relationship between the birth parents and the child(ren). "Free" means sometimes falling in love with a child who right when you think is going to be up for adoption is reunified with their family. A bittersweet moment because after all the main goal of foster care is reunification of families.
No child chooses to be an orphan or a ward of the state, and they should never be treated differently than a "normal" child.